I was very reluctant to get into social networking. I just wasn’t sure about the whole Facebook
thing. You know, the time that needs to
be put in keeping my status updated and interesting – and then there is the
whole issue of having to put photos of myself
out there in cyber space for the whole world to see. I wanted no part of that! So, when I first learned about Twitter, I was somewhat
intrigued – it seemed so much simpler and easier to manage than Facebook. There was no need to post pictures on the
page – and it seemed like an innocent, fun way to receive inspirational ‘tweets’
from one of my favorite Christian authors ( I thought it would be awesome to
receive an occasional nugget of wisdom from her). So with that, and only that, in mind – I decided
to take the plunge and join Twitter. I
signed up, offered no information about myself except for my name, opted to follow
only one person (my author), and pledged to myself to not tweet anything personal.
As it turned out, my author didn’t tweet
anything either – so you would think my Twitter page would be very uneventful
and quiet.
Well, it was neither uneventful nor quiet! Something very strange appeared to be happening
on my Twitter page; I began to notice that several men were following me. I also noticed that the men all had Hispanic
names! Over the course of the next few
days, and in spite of the fact that I tweeted nothing, more and more Hispanic
men were becoming my followers! The
number of followers soon grew to over 150 and I was increasingly becoming more
and more puzzled. What were these men looking
for? Why were these men trying to find
whatever they were looking for by following me?
I had no profile listed, no picture, and certainly no tweets – neither
from me or my favorite author! It was quickly
becoming a great mystery!
Finally one day, after watching 10 more men adding
themselves to my followers list, I decided to Google my name – Laura Acuña. As soon as I pressed the Google search
button, I began to see pages and pages of information and photos of my namesake.
As I viewed the on-line pictures of
Laura Acuña, it suddenly all clicked into place. The mystery was no more – instead, it made
perfect and hilarious sense! Apparently,
I am a Brazilian bombshell! Or, more
accurately, the ‘Laura Acuña’ whose pictures are posted on-line is a Brazilian
sex symbol! Obviously, with no photo of
myself and no profile information on my Twitter page, all of those Hispanic
guys thought they were following their favorite pin up girl! Let me tell you, she is everything I am not! She is tall; she is brunette; she is curvy in
all the right places; and she is gorgeous!
The only people who thought this was more hysterical than me were my own
three sons who immediately took to their own Facebook pages and posted to the
world that their mother had been mistaken for a Brazilian sex symbol!
Well, after all the laughing had subsided, I knew I had a
job to do. I had to delete all of those
disillusioned young men from my account and start all over again. I needed to post a picture of myself on my
Twitter page and then write a little bit about myself for my profile. For the record – I am not tall, nor brunette,
nor curvy in all the right places, and I am not even Hispanic (I acquired my
Hispanic last name through marriage)! I
was sure that, once the truth about the ‘real’ Laura Acuña was posted, I would
no longer see any more men signing up to be one of my followers. I actually felt bad for the men who would be disappointed
to find out who they were really following!
Now this is a funny story for sure – but, as so often
happens, there is an underlying truth. If
we are to be truly honest with ourselves, most of us would probably admit to a fear
that lurks beneath the surface—the truth is, many of us fear the people in our
lives (re: our ‘followers’) would be very disappointed if they knew the real
‘us.’ We are convinced they will drift
away and stop being our friend if they were to discover who truly we are on the
inside. Many of you will know exactly what I am
talking about.
Have you ever felt that way?
Have you ever been paralyzed by the thought that, if people knew the ‘real’
you, they wouldn’t want to have anything to do with you? Does this cause you to keep people at an arms
length and never reveal your true self to those closest to you?
I have been well
acquainted with this kind of faulty thinking. The root cause of this is shame. Many of us tend to confuse guilt
and shame, thinking they are basically the same – but such is not the case. While guilt says that you have made a mistake, shame is far more
damaging -- for it says ‘You are the
mistake.’ That, ladies, is a lie
straight from the pit of hell. God
doesn’t make mistakes – and He certainly does not think you or I are one,
either!
It took a group of very safe, very loving, “real” Christian
sisters to help me learn that it was ok to be my true self—the good the bad and
the ugly! We need authentic, real
relationships, girls! It was also a
right understanding of the difference between guilt and shame that helped me
allow God to transform my thinking about myself. It is now in line with what He thinks about
me. Shame has no place in the life of a
child of God and I am free of it! Praise His name!
I have two prayerful
longings for us. My first prayer is
that we would all be in environments where we can feel safe enough and free
enough to be our true selves – not only before God, but before our friends,
family, and the church as well. My
second prayer includes a challenge: I am praying that we will rise to the occasion and be the safe women, authentic and
real—the kind of friends, sisters, wives and mothers who breathe life, grace
and love into others, inviting and encouraging them into freedom without
judgment or comparison.
Will you join me in this prayer and challenge? Do you need to feel and experience God’s grace
in this area of your life? I would love
for you to leave a comment and share your thoughts with us!
In His Love,
The not tall, nor brunette,
nor curvy in all the right places......~Laura Acuña!
" This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave- tending life. It's adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike, "What's next Papa?". God's Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are. We know who He is and we know who we are: Father and children." ~Romans 8:15-16 (MSG)
Thank you for sharing. Very funny story, and for me, it was oh so true. I am very reluctant to be on Facebook etc.--to have my life posted for others to see. Am I boring and uninteresting? And sharing pictures is oh so scary. (No tall, leggy bombshell behind this profile either!) Our study and sharing has been good. Laura your words are encouraging. I am reminded again that I am God's workmanship. He is the creator, designer, inventor of my spirit, soul and body-- and who am I to judge what He has lovingly created and call it a mistake? I'm trying to picture God like I get when I'm excited about designing a quilt. For the most part, modern quilters no longer use leftover pieces of cloth. They have a bounty of fabrics, colors, and patterns to select from. Some are contemporary, some are old fashioned, some bright, some muted, some large prints and some small. When deciding on a new project to start, I get so passionate about the patterns and colors that I can choose from and what I want to show off, highlight or focus on. I'm tickled and delighted with the, exciting possibilities in front of me. I want to combine them in such a way that they are beautiful and unique. Perhaps God is excited about his "Kathy" project too. Perhaps He he delights in fashioning my inner and outer qualities uniquely, until he thinks that they are just right. He works on me until I project the beauty that he wants me to. I just need to let the artist do His work - sculpting and forming.(But pretty please God, I know that you know what you're doing, BUT could you chisel away some of the extra flab on my hips and thights? I would really appreciate it! I just know that I'm a size 6 underneath it all!) Kathy Skalabrin
ReplyDeleteKathy- thank you for your comment! I KNOW this is how He sees you and He is excited about the project that is YOU!! :) Love to you sister! XOXOX0
ReplyDeleteFunny post! Isn't it great to know that He loves us no matter our shape, size, worldly signifigance, or position? He is so wonderful! Blessings to you!
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ReplyDeleteThank you for commenting! Knowing that He loves us no matter WHAT is the most freeing truth! :-)
Blessings to you too!
Laura - I just came across this page and I am so blessed by this, as I needed to hear this just here, just now. There simply is no greater freedom, no greater comfort, no greater truth than to know that HE adores and cherishes us JUST AS WE ARE. Bless you for this ministry.
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Wow Donate-thanks for commenting. I am happy you have found your way to the blog. You are right! He DOES cherish us just as we are...and THAT news when believed, brings peace, comfort and freedom!
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Laura